amazing

It amazes me how people can have the best of intentions and yet they just don’t get it.  Of course, then I start wondering about the idiotic things that have potenially come out of my own mouth and that kind of makes me want to cring.  So I tell this story, knowing the person who said it didn’t mean it the way it sounded to my ears. 

First, a back story.  I have a friend and her five year old boy is always asking me if I have found a husband yet.  It’s really adorable — but really only because he’s five.  If anyone whose age reaches into double digits asked me that, they would be in danger of a one-two punch.  But from a  five year old, who looks for me a husband at the grocery store, it’s kind of cute and even sweet. 

So I’m telling a new friend of mine this story and she says “I know.  I have those friends who I think are great and I just don’t understand why guys don’t see that they are amazing”.  I know this is supposed to be a compliment but seriously?!?!  Who says that men don’t see me as amazing?  Just because I don’t check the married box on government documents doesn’t mean that I am deemed untouchable by the male race.  Did it occur to anyone that I might be single by choice?  That at one time I had the opportunity to get married but wanted to enjoy being single as I ventured into my twenties?  That perhaps I decided a long time ago I didn’t want to settle and few (there are some) people have come along that I would consider “not settling”?  Why is it that something must certainly be wrong with the single woman? 

I don’t mean to get on my soap box here but I’ve seen what a bad marriage looks like and I don’t want that.  I’m not saying that I don’t want a family of my own someday, I do.  The point is that I’m just fine with my single status — which, by the way, does not truly define who I am.  There are things I get to do now that will be hard, if not impossible, when I am married.  So I do them.  I want to enjoy my single life so that one day I will get to enjoy my married life, with no regrets. 

God has great plans for each of us — I believe that.  He knows His creation, how amazing is that?

(Cancun — here I come!!  I’ll be gone for a week but I’m sure I’ll have lots of stories and pictures when I get back!)